Kier Gaines
Licensed therapist sharing accessible mental health insights, fatherhood, and family well‑being.
Healing Needs Practical Steps, Not Just Self‑Awareness
If you ask people what self-healing actually takes, they won’t be able tell you what to do beyond “be more self aware” or “increase your self-love”. Yeah, but no. Unlearning, detangling, deconstructing, leaning in and phasing out are things that require practice. We don’t have a healing problem, we have an instruction and practical application problem.
Kids Test Your Patience Like a Finish Line
Some people will get on your last nerve. Kids will run through your last nerve like it’s a finish line at the end of a race.
Authors Must Reread Manuscript Four Times—Still Love It
Did you know that after you write your book, the publisher asks you to read it cover-to-cover four different times? Neither did I 😓. The fact that I still love it at this stage of the game gives me great...
Checking In Saves Lives, Even Without Reciprocity
I have homies that I will call and check on if I don’t hear from them in a while. They never return the favor. Ever 😮💨. I don’t take it personally. I still call those boys and make sure that...
Redefining Balance: Prioritizing Kids Amid Work Chaos
This is the busiest that I’ve ever been work wise, and the next 6 months will be even crazier. Lately i’ve been closing my laptop more and stealing time for my kids individually. We take a few board games, hit...
Wife Joins Board of Black Maternal Care Organization
My wife @noemiegaines is officially a board member for @mamatotovillage, an incredible organization that offers comprehensive maternal care to black mothers. I’m so proud of her y’all 🥹. It’s been her dream to pour back into the community in this...
Consistency Pays Off: Two Months of Boxing Bliss
I promised myself that if I stayed consistent with my boxing training for a month, I’d buy myself some new gloves. Here’s to two months of grueling training twice a week. I absolutely love it!
Relationships Need Maintenance, Not Repair Like a Car
As a couple’s counselor, do you know what I have to constantly emphasize? Your partnership is no a car, so Maintenance ≠ Repair
Inconsistent Messaging Equals Chaos, Not Leadership
Leadership with inconsistent messaging and a disjointed ethos is not good leadership. It’s just chaos selfishly wielding the power to not be questioned.
Final Edits Done, Sunset River Reflections Seal Progress
Down to the last 15 pages of the first round of copy edits for my first book. Chose to review it by the river at sunset.
Daycare: A Familiar Place and Unmistakable Aroma
Daycare is a place and a smell. I can’t explain it, but I know what I’m talking about.
Emma Grede Hints Exciting New Book Is Coming
When @emmagrede says “send me your address,” you know that something dope is inbound. Excited to read her new book Start With Yourself.
From Juvenile Offender to Proud Father and Entrepreneur
I saw one of the young men from the youth program that I used to run for juvenile offenders. She showed me his beautiful sons, showed me his business, remembered our motto and told me that he loved me. I...
Supermom Juggles School, Work, Gym, and Gaming
Since 5AM : - Got two kids ready for school - Packed book bags and filled water bottles - Managed a potential family crisis (it’s fine) - Made a grocery store run - Set up for my pod - Filmed said pod for 2.5...