Liz Kinchen – Mindfulness Meditation Blog

When We Abandon Ourselves

The author recounts a restaurant incident where she accepted a fried grouper she didn’t want, realizing she had slipped back into a lifelong habit of self‑abandonment. She links this pattern to early conditioning that teaches women to suppress needs and prioritize others. By framing the moment as a teacher, she argues that mindful self‑advocacy can break these unconscious scripts. The piece calls for conscious, balanced choices that honor personal values even in trivial situations.