Dr M | Clinical Psychologist
Clinical psychologist sharing therapist‑informed reflections on emotions, shame, and healing.
Rest Is a Biological Need, Not a Productivity Reward
In case you keep forgetting: Rest is not a reward for being productive. Rest is a biological need. Please stop calling yourself lazy or unmotivated when you’re actually exhausted. Sincerely, A Psychologist
Healthy Love Keeps Your Nervous System Calm
Friendly reminder: Healthy love doesn’t force your nervous system into survival mode. Sincerely A Psychologist
You’re Not Broken—Your Adaptability Fuels Recovery
I don’t know who needs to hear this: You’re not broken. You’re living proof that you are capable of coping & adapting to survive - right up to the edge of sustainability. And you will be able to cope with the journey...
Boundaries Don't Require Anyone's Permission
Reminder from a therapist: You don’t need their permission, or approval, or understanding to enforce a boundary.
Honor Your Needs: Rest, Eat, Feel to Heal
Reminder from a Psychologist: If you’re tired, rest. If you’re hungry, eat. If you’re emotional, feel. Silencing your needs was learned. It is unlearned by gently honoring them again.
Closure Mirrors Their Availability; Seek Your Own New Chapter
As a therapist, I think people romanticize the idea of getting closure. The closure you’ll receive will likely reflect the emotional availability, self-awareness, & accountability they showed in the relationship. Maybe you don’t need closure. Maybe you need to remind...
You’re Capable: One Step Forward Is Progress
Maybe you need this today: You’ve got this. You can do this. You’re strong. You’re capable. One more step in the right direction is progress. Sincerely A Psychologist
Partners Should Soothe, Not Trigger Your Nervous System
Reminder from a Psychologist: Your partner is supposed to be a source of comfort & reassurance, not the reason your nervous system is on high alert.
Partners Should Lift Your Worth, Not Diminish It
Reminder from a therapist: Your partner is supposed to remind you of your worth, not strip you of it.
Respecting Boundaries Doesn't Require Understanding Them
Hot take from a therapist: They don’t need to understand your boundaries in order to respect them.
Identify Your Top Need and How to Support It
Important questions incoming… What do you need most today? How are you supporting that priority? Sincerely A Therapist
Fill Your Own Cup Before Giving to Others
Reminder from a Psychologist: Your empty cup is not an endless community resource. It’s important to fill your cup, meet your needs & enjoy your life too ❤️
Apologizing Reveals Childhood Roots of Self‑Shame
As a therapist, I’m going to ask about your childhood when you: Apologized for how you showed up today. Apologized for crying. Apologized for not figuring it out by yourself. Apologized for slow progress. Apologized for bringing it up again. Apologized for being a burden. Apologized for...
True Soulmates Make You Feel Safe Expressing Needs
Reminder from a therapist: Your soul mate won’t make you feel unsafe when you express your emotions & ask for what you need ❤️