Nicole LePera, PhD

Nicole LePera, PhD

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Psychologist and author; trauma, nervous system regulation, self‑healing.

Feeling Worse? It’s Actually Emotional Growth
SocialApr 28, 2026

Feeling Worse? It’s Actually Emotional Growth

Things that make you feel like you are getting worse, but are actually a sign you're learning how to regulate your emotions.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Silence: Respectful Accountability, Not Closure
SocialApr 26, 2026

Silence: Respectful Accountability, Not Closure

Silence is a form of self respect. It's how we actually hold someone accountable. The Myth of "Getting Closure"

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Rock Bottom Can Spark a Transformative Breakthrough
SocialApr 24, 2026

Rock Bottom Can Spark a Transformative Breakthrough

If you're at emotional rock bottom, it can be the beginning of a new breakthrough. How To Get Through A Dark Night Of the Soul:

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Set Boundaries to Block Emotional Bait and Manipulation
SocialApr 22, 2026

Set Boundaries to Block Emotional Bait and Manipulation

When someone can't control you, they'll try to control what other people think of you. This is when you set clear boundaries. How To Not Take Emotional Bait:

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Relieving Decision Fatigue: A Powerful Love Language
SocialApr 18, 2026

Relieving Decision Fatigue: A Powerful Love Language

Giving your partner a break from decision fatigue is a love language. Removing someone's mental load is the highest form of consideration.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
World's Biggest Impact: Nurturing Calm, Stress‑free Mothers
SocialApr 16, 2026

World's Biggest Impact: Nurturing Calm, Stress‑free Mothers

Want to (actually) change the world: put all of society's focus on energy in creating calm, unstressed mothers.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Apologize, Stay Humble, and Keep Improving Family Bonds
SocialApr 16, 2026

Apologize, Stay Humble, and Keep Improving Family Bonds

All parents traumatize their children. People hurt people. We traumatize each other, sometimes unintentionally. The work isn't to be perfect, it's to apologize, to be humble, and to keep trying to do better. That's how you create a healthy family.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Hard Childhood Fuels Unique Brilliance and Creativity
SocialApr 15, 2026

Hard Childhood Fuels Unique Brilliance and Creativity

Do not forget that a difficult childhood also creates brilliance, creativity, and resourcefulness that other people have no access to.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Dear Younger Me: I Never Gave Up
SocialApr 14, 2026

Dear Younger Me: I Never Gave Up

Write a letter to your younger self telling them how far you've come. Tell them all you've learned. Share how you never gave up. Your inner child is impressed beyond what you can imagine.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Narcissistic Fathers Crave Obedience, Resent Growing Independence
SocialApr 12, 2026

Narcissistic Fathers Crave Obedience, Resent Growing Independence

The narcissistic father wants obedient children that make him feel important. He loves his children when they're babies or toddlers. And feels resentment when they're old enough to express their own opinions.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Stay Strong: Don't Apologize, Shrink, or Fawn
SocialApr 6, 2026

Stay Strong: Don't Apologize, Shrink, or Fawn

The best way to respond to difficult or combative people is to never fawn, apologize, or shrink. A complete guide to not having a cortisol spike:

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Your Location and Relationships Shape Mental Health
SocialApr 6, 2026

Your Location and Relationships Shape Mental Health

The two things that impact your mental health more than anything else: 1. Where you live 2. Who you spend your life with

By Nicole LePera, PhD
When a Present Father Feels Emotionally Absent, Understanding Becomes Rare
SocialMar 29, 2026

When a Present Father Feels Emotionally Absent, Understanding Becomes Rare

Growing up with a physically present but absent dad creates an obsession to be understood only some people can understand.

By Nicole LePera, PhD
Seeing a Narcissistic Father Destroy Mom Hurts Forever
SocialMar 28, 2026

Seeing a Narcissistic Father Destroy Mom Hurts Forever

The worst part of growing up with a narcissistic father is having to watch him break your mother.

By Nicole LePera, PhD