Coaching for Leaders
787: Better Leadership Through Humor, with Chris Duffy
Why It Matters
Understanding humor as a leadership competency shows leaders how to foster engagement, resilience, and psychological safety, especially in high‑stress environments. As remote work and rapid change increase employee burnout, using humor to humanize interactions is a timely strategy for building stronger, more adaptable teams.
Key Takeaways
- •Humor acts as shortcut to leadership competencies.
- •Generous humor builds trust and humanizes leaders.
- •Being present enables noticing everyday comedic moments.
- •Lighthearted mishaps increase interview likability, per study.
- •“New bathroom mindset” sharpens observation for authentic humor.
Pulse Analysis
In this episode, Chris Duffy frames humor as a strategic leadership tool rather than a mere entertainment gimmick. He argues that humor shortcuts the development of core competencies—such as vulnerability, presence, and connection—by making these practices feel effortless. By treating laughter as a generous act, leaders can humanize themselves, foster trust, and create a culture where authenticity thrives. This perspective reframes humor from a risky, off‑color risk to a purposeful technique that amplifies employee engagement and organizational culture.
Duffy illustrates his points with vivid examples: a candidate who spilled coffee before an interview was rated higher than a flawless counterpart, showing that relatable imperfections boost likability. He also recounts a boss who laughed at a microphone failure, turning a technical glitch into a bonding moment, and shares a fifth‑grade teacher’s experience using a student’s witty cafeteria reviews to motivate learning. These stories demonstrate that lighthearted mishaps and everyday absurdities, when acknowledged with generosity, strengthen connections and improve performance without sacrificing professionalism.
For leaders seeking to embed humor responsibly, Duffy recommends cultivating presence and adopting the “new bathroom mindset”—the practice of deliberately observing unfamiliar environments to spot the unexpected. By sharpening attention, leaders can notice the small, funny details that others miss and share them authentically. The key is to keep humor inclusive, avoid forced jokes, and use self‑deprecation to lower barriers. When applied thoughtfully, humor enhances leadership effectiveness, drives team cohesion, and fuels a resilient, innovative workplace.
Episode Description
Chris Duffy: Humor Me
Chris Duffy is an award-winning podcaster, comedian, and television writer. He hosts the podcast How to Be a Better Human and you can find his comedic TED talk, “How to find laughter anywhere” online. He is the author of Humor Me: How Laughing More Can Make You Present, Creative, Connected, and Happy (Amazon, Bookshop)*.
It sometimes seems like someone with a good sense of humor does everything a bit better. Perhaps leadership is no different – but it’s not about landing jokes. In this episode, Chris and I explore why everyday humor is all about paying attention and generosity.
Key Points
Humor might not make the list of top leadership competencies, but it helps you perform every other competency better.
A good sense of humor is inherently generous.
Effective humor isn’t landing the perfect joke or being the center of attention. It’s noticing the humor is everyday work and bravely calling attention to it.
The first pillar of cultivating humor is simply being present.
Start with times you are least present and most zoned out. Zero in with a “new bathroom” frame of mind.
Celebrate the bad stuff and find humor in it. By doing so, you inherently help people appreciate excellence.
Resources Mentioned
Humor Me: How Laughing More Can Make You Present, Creative, Connected, and Happy by Chris Duffy (Amazon, Bookshop)*
Interview Notes
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How to Engage With Humor, with David Nihill (episode 235)
Get Better at Deep Listening, with Oscar Trimboli (episode 408)
How to Genuinely Show Up for Others, with Marshall Goldsmith (episode 590)
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