Use These Five Phrases To Disagree With Powerful People

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CNBC Make ItJun 6, 2026

Why It Matters

Effective, respectful dissent preserves relationships and leads to better decisions, crucial for high‑stakes corporate environments.

Key Takeaways

  • Acknowledge the point before presenting your challenge clearly.
  • Phrase disagreements as additive nuances, not outright rejections.
  • Frame concerns as organizational interests to appear collaborative.
  • Use specific fact‑checking prompts like “Are we factoring X, Y, Z?”
  • Choose private settings for sensitive feedback to avoid misinterpretation.

Summary

The video teaches professionals how to voice disagreement with senior leaders without triggering defensiveness, emphasizing diplomatic language over blunt criticism.

It advises against saying “you’re wrong” or “that’s a bad idea,” and instead recommends framing feedback as shared problem‑solving—e.g., “That’s a fair point, and the challenge I see is…”, “I’d like to add a nuance to that,” or “My concern with that would be…”. It also suggests fact‑checking prompts (“Are we factoring X, Y, Z?”) and probing questions to uncover decision rationale.

The presenter highlights scripts such as “That’s a fair point, and the challenge I see is ___” and “I want to make sure we’re factoring in X, Y, and Z,” illustrating how adding context or asking “How do you see this playing out over the next 3‑6 months?” can turn disagreement into collaborative dialogue.

By using these phrases, employees can protect their ideas, improve project outcomes, and maintain credibility with powerful stakeholders, while minimizing the risk of conflict or misinterpretation.

Original Description

Executive coach Melody Wilding, author of "Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge," talks about the five things you should say when you disagree with a powerful person.
Produced & Shot by: Zach Green
Managing Producer: Beatriz Bajuelos
Editor: Meline Rosales
Contributors Editor: Stav Ziv
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Use These Five Phrases To Disagree With Powerful People

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