Nature or Nurture? What Is Behind the ‘Eldest Daughter Syndrome’ | Asian Insider Podcast

The Straits Times
The Straits TimesJun 5, 2026

Why It Matters

Understanding this syndrome highlights structural gender inequalities that affect labor distribution, workforce participation and demographic trends in Taiwan; addressing it matters for policy on family support, gender equity and efforts to raise the birth rate.

Summary

In a podcast discussion, Straits Times Taiwan correspondent Yayi and host Lisha Ying explore the rise of “eldest daughter syndrome” in Taiwan, where firstborn daughters shoulder disproportionate emotional and caregiving responsibilities. Prompted by a bestselling Taiwanese book and widespread reader response, they link the pattern not to birth-order determinism but to social and gendered expectations that assign domestic and care work to women. Guests describe how the role shapes workplace behavior, boundary issues, guilt and resentment, and can influence decisions around marriage and childbearing. The phenomenon is framed as part of broader debates about Taiwan’s low birth rate and persistent traditional gender roles despite the country’s progressive image.

Original Description

Being uber-responsible, people-pleasing, and a perfectionist are traits that first-born girls in Asia purportedly have
A book in Taiwan on the so-called “eldest daughter syndrome” is now a bestseller, translated into other languages.
It looks at how many first-born women in the East Asian society struggle with perfectionism, people-pleasing, burnout, anxiety and other mental health struggles. This often arises from the profound psychological and physical pressures that they face at home.
What is even more insidious is when these traits carry over from the private space to their workplace.
Taiwan correspondent Yip Wai Yee, herself a first-born girl, speaks to foreign editor Li Xueying, another first-born girl, on her personal experience, as well as the question: where is all of this coming from?
Highlights (click/tap above):
1:58 What is the eldest daughter syndrome
4:43 Myth vs social expectations
6:29 Eldest daughter syndrome entrenched in Taiwan society
10:17 How it plays into workplace burnout and boundaries
13:55 Managing guilt and saying no as an eldest daughter
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Host: Li Xueying (xueying@sph.com.sg)
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