How to Better Regulate Your Emotions | Dr. Marc Brackett

Andrew Huberman – Huberman Lab
Andrew Huberman – Huberman LabApr 20, 2026

Why It Matters

Understanding emotion regulation as a flexible, context‑driven skill empowers individuals and organizations to enhance performance, resilience, and mental health.

Key Takeaways

  • Emotion regulation means changing relationship to feelings, not eliminating them.
  • Use the PRIME framework: Prevent, Reduce, Initiate, Maintain, Enhance emotions.
  • Context, personality, and goals dictate which regulation strategies work best.
  • Accept all emotions; expression should be context‑appropriate, not suppressed.
  • Simple practices like greeting anxiety can quickly reduce its impact.

Summary

The conversation between Andrew Huberman and Dr. Marc Brackett centers on redefining emotion regulation. Rather than viewing regulation as suppression, Brackett frames it as cultivating a new relationship with feelings, especially when environmental cues trigger strong reactions. Key insights include the PRIME acronym—Prevent, Reduce, Initiate, Maintain, Enhance—as a goal‑oriented toolkit. Strategies vary by emotion, individual temperament, and situational context, emphasizing that one‑size‑fits‑all approaches are ineffective. Brackett also stresses that all emotions are inherently neutral; it is their expression and management that determine outcomes. Notable quotes illustrate this mindset: “I just say hello to my anxiety… ‘Hey, how you doing today?’” and “Anxiety is a signal that something important matters, not a flaw.” These examples show how simple, mindful acknowledgments can defuse intensity without constant monitoring. The implications are clear for workplaces, schools, and personal life: adopting flexible, context‑aware regulation techniques can improve communication, decision‑making, and overall well‑being, while reducing the mental load of over‑monitoring emotions.

Original Description

Dr. Marc Brackett, PhD, is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. We discuss the science of emotion regulation and practical tools to increase your emotional intelligence. Dr. Brackett clarifies exactly how to do that both in the context of relationships, but also things that you can do on your own to become more emotionally intelligent to later serve you in the context of relationships, work, school, etc. We also discuss how your childhood experiences influence your relationship with emotions, with particular emphasis on how boys and men are socialized around emotional processing and expression.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Marc Brackett
00:02:55 Emotion Regulation
00:05:53 Emotion Mindset, Anxiety; Good or Bad Emotions?
00:11:25 Sponsors: Joovv & Lingo
00:13:54 Permission for Happiness; Gender, Emotion Suppression
00:22:13 Young Men, Vulnerability, Incapable; Gay Men
00:31:00 Boys & Men, Crying; Emotion Socialization
00:37:34 Sponsor: AG1
00:38:58 Physical Interaction; Rough/Tumble Play, Teaching Emotion Regulation
00:46:47 Emotion Calibration, Tools: Leaders & Being a Role Model; Meta-Moment
00:56:15 Meditation & Stress Tolerance, Tool: Label Emotions; Childhood
01:03:12 Sponsor: LMNT
01:04:32 Understand Your Assumptions, Tool: Intentional Co-Regulation
01:12:09 Vocabulary & Rethinking Emotion, Tool: Reframing
01:15:49 Emotional Intelligence Training, Self-Evaluation
01:22:15 Living with Discomfort & Emotional Intelligence
01:27:01 Marc's Work & Criticism; Emotion "Leakage" & Switching Mindset
01:34:19 Sponsor: Rorra
01:35:32 Excitement, Positive Emotion; Modern Concerns, AI & Disconnection
01:45:11 Major Societal Challenges & Everyday Progress
01:54:38 Physical/Emotional Identity & Envision Best Self, Tool: Meta-Moment
02:05:33 Emotional Intelligence
02:12:46 Curiosity & Compassion; Reflection, Identity
02:19:32 Point of Connection Game
02:25:02 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter
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