The Preamble

Of Course You Care What People Think

A therapist reflects on the painful sting of negative online feedback, revealing how our ancient need for social acceptance still drives modern anxiety. The piece explains that physiological reactions—cortisol spikes and heart‑rate surges—precede rational thought, making it hard to simply “toughen up.” It cites research showing that suppressing unwanted thoughts actually amplifies them, and proposes a middle path of mindful observation rather than avoidance. By pausing, breathing, and evaluating the relevance of each opinion, the author finds a healthier way to engage with criticism without spiraling.